Wedding Stationery Help & Advice

Please read through our help and advice section which hopefully covers all aspects of choosing, personalising and ordering your wedding stationery.

First impressions are all important and through your invitations you will be able to convey the style and theme of your wedding so you will want to choose them carefully.

We can help you design and co-ordinate all items of your wedding stationery and set just the right tone for your special day. So, don't be afraid to be creative, especially if you are planning an unusual ceremony or reception, use your invitations to set the scene. We relish a challenge so don't be afraid to give us your ideas - we can turn them into works of art!!

Ordering & Sending Your Wedding Invitations

Traditionally the bride's parents send out the wedding invitations. Nowadays, it is more likely that the couple sends them. Whatever the situation we have wording suggestions for you - please see our "wording" page.

Order your wedding invitations at least six months before your wedding, earlier if your wedding is during holiday periods. Please take the time to check our current lead times - always updated on our Home Page.  We hand make every single item from scratch for each individual order and nothing is "off the shelf"!

Please check any proofs we send you carefully prior to printing to make sure all the details are correct. (see our Terms and Conditions page for specific pointers relating to Proofing).

Make it clear on the wedding invitation who is invited and what part of the day you would like them to attend the ceremony and the reception, or the evening celebrations only.

Have separate day and evening invitations printed. You may also want to indicate the dress code, i.e. if evening dress is required the words "Black Tie" should appear in the bottom right hand corner. Alternatively, you may want to encourage evening guests to participate in a theme and dress accordingly.

Remember to send wedding invitations to both sets of parents and to your attendants. It is also courteous to invite the minister and his/her partner. If you have relatives you know cannot attend, the elderly for instance, it is a nice gesture to still send an invitation - but don't include them on your guest list.

Order 10% extra invitations to allow for any mistakes or to invite last minute guests.

Send all your wedding invitations at the same time. Include a stamped addressed reply card and indicate a deadline for responses. You may also want to include directions from the church to the reception, a note asking for any special dietary requirements, hotel or B&B details for guests staying overnight, and your gift list. (Though sending the gift list is standard practice now, if its a second marriage it may be more fitting to wait until it is requested).

By ordering and writing out your "thank you" cards at the same time will save you time searching round for addresses at a later stage. (If your gift list was organised through a gift registry at a store, be specific about the gift you received - the store may have made a mistake and need to rectify it).

The beautifully scripted handwriting of a calligrapher will make your invitations look very impressive but this can be very expensive. At Lilylou & You we can advise on the best fonts to create the best impression. We have literally 1000's available and will always source any required fonts not already in our collection.

Our personalisation service includes the following as standard:

♥ Guest names included on each invite

♥ Full personalisation and wording requested or provided for the client

♥ Pre-addressed personalised RSVP postcards (included in cost of invites where stated)

Additional services for a small fee include:

♥ Variation on wording for "batches" of invites - e.g. additional wording for guests travelling from afar, different wording for various members of family, variations on bride and groom names, additional language text, etc.

♥ Guest envelopes named and addressed with matching stylisation from the stationery design

♥ RSVP envelopes return addressed (already included with all pocketfold invites)

♥ Thank you cards containing individual recipient names, gift received and personal message

Remember - we are here to help all the way so if you need any advice please let us know.

Other Wedding Stationery

Order of Service' are the agenda for the ceremony and state the name of the bride and groom, the date and place of your wedding, the order of events and the music and readings included. If you are marrying in church, rather than have the ushers hand out hymn and prayer books too, include the words on the Order of Service, it saves all that fumbling about finding the right pages.

Check the schedules of events with your minister or registrar before having them printed.

Reception stationery includes: place cards, menus, table plan, table names or numbers, favours, cake boxes, a book for your guests to sign, all of which can be co-ordinated to your theme.

Table names are great fun and can reflect so much about the couple - there are so many different themes we have worked with some of them romantic and charming others funny and alarming!!

If your wedding day is during the school holidays, you might like to have "Save the Date" cards printed to send to special guests as soon as you have set the date so they don't arrange their holidays and miss your wedding. Often we suggest these are an introduction to your theme and carries hint of your "full range" of stationery

Inviting Children

The situation regarding not inviting children can be tricky. Many parents will assume that your invitation includes their small children. To save any embarrassment you could telephone people before sending out the invitation or, you could include a short personal note saying, "Much as we'd like to invite the children of all our friends, it is only possible to accommodate the children of close family".

If you are inviting small children and you have made special arrangements for entertainment, a bouncy castle for example, you may want to advise parents when you send out your invitation so they bring along appropriate clothing. Avoid addressing your invitations to "John, Janet and family", if they have teenage children they might turn up with their girl/boyfriends, too.

We realise some feel awkward about these situations but remember - you can't please all of the people all of the time and it is YOUR DAY. However, as mother's ourselves, some of us welcome a break from our little darlings and are more than happy to have some "time off" and are not in the least bit offended!!!!



Have fun planning and if you need any help or advice - just ask!!

Bernie and Claire x